How I started blogging – Part 1 of 4

Saw an old friend at the market

A few days ago I saw an old friend whom I hadn’t seen in a couple of years at the local farmers market. We first met when my son and her daughter started preschool, about 15 years ago. We excitedly went right into sharing some quick words about what had changed in our lives since we had last seen each other. We were having a lively little chat, but I wanted to go beyond the news report and engage in more significant conversation. I had missed her in the last couple of years, and wanted to know how she was doing personally.  So I asked ” but so how are you?” a second time, this time a bit more emphatically, hoping that would elicit a more meaningful answer than the automatic “fine”, or “great” , or “ok” that it usually produces the first time around. I have found that to often be the case, and indeed, her answer this time was simple and to the point. She smiled and said: “I am bored.”

She didn’t mean bored with the market or with our conversation. She meant bored with her life. I was surprised by her openness, and admired her courage to admit that so naturally. Her answer made me feel very gratified as a friend. Her candor made me believe that the elapsed time had not significantly lessened the closeness we once shared. I felt an immediate re-connection, and that sudden sense of comfort in our re-discovered friendship must have lowered my consciousness defenses, because before I knew it, I blurted out words that surprised me as soon as I heard them out of my own mouth. I said I was bored too.

I had never thought that way about my life before.

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3 responses to “How I started blogging – Part 1 of 4

  • Irene

    Hi Valerie,
    Even though you have just 4 posts so far, I’ve read them all with great interest. You write beautifully. Perhaps its good for us that you’re feeling bored. I wonder would you have started this blog had you not felt so. I have subscribed in the hope that you continue to write more wonderful, insightful posts. I have just started blogging too, though the feeling behind mine is somewhat confused. I really should write somewhere on it ‘work in progress’. I look forward to reading more. Best wishes, irene

  • Valerie Hill

    Thank you, Irene! Your words were kind and very encouraging. How did you find my blog? I checked your blog and saw that we have much in common! I’ll be following it. Motherhood is a challenge, it doesn’t matter how old your kids are!

    • Irene

      Hi Valerie, I found your post in the ‘latest posts’ area of the global dashboard. Had I not been up so late I’d most likely have missed it! I can’t imaging the number of blogs there are on wordpress, it seems like a vast ocean to me, and we all inhabit our own little bubble, until of course someone happens upon us and friendships begin. It’s the way of the world I guess!

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